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I’ve recorded hundreds of episodes of Muscle for Life on a huge variety of things related to health, fitness, and lifestyle, ranging from the basics of diet and exercise like energy and macronutrient balance and progressive overload and training frequency and volume to fads like the ketogenic and carnivore diet and collagen protein to more unfamiliar territories like body weight set point and fasted cardio.
Some episodes resonate with my crowd more than others, but all of them contain at least a few key takeaways that just about anyone can benefit from (that’s what I tell myself at least).
And as cool as that is, it poses a problem for you, my dear listener:
Ain’t nobody got time for that.
Well okay, some people do make the time to listen to most or even all of my podcasts, but my wizbang analytics tell me that while many listeners tune in on a regular basis, they don’t catch every installment of Muscle for Life and thus miss out on insights that could help them get a little better inside and outside the gym.
People have also been saying they’d like me to do more shorter, multi-topic episodes, like my Q&As.
And so I got an idea: how about a “best of” series of podcasts that contains a few of the most practical and compelling ideas, tips, and moments from my most popular episodes?
This way, people who are new to the show can quickly determine if it’s for them or not, and those who enjoy what I’m doing but don’t have the time or inclination to listen to all of my stuff can still benefit from the discussions and find new episodes to listen to.
So, in this episode of The Best of Muscle for Life, you’ll be hearing hand-picked morsels from three episodes:
Layne Norton on How to Avoid and Overcome Weightlifting Injuries
(Originally published Jun 11, 2017)
How to Change Your Body Weight Set Point
(Originally published Sep 19, 2018)
Motivation Monday: Advice I’d Give to My Younger Self
(Originally published Apr 1, 2019)
And we’ll be starting with number one, Layne Norton on How to Avoid and Overcome Weightlifting Injuries.
0:00 – Intro
5:45 – Layne Norton on How to Avoid and Overcome Weightlifting Injuries
17:09 – How to Change Your Body Weight Set Point
27:50 – Motivation Monday: Advice I’d Give to My Younger Self
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Hello, and welcome to the latest and greatest episode of Muscle for Life. I’m Mike Matthews and thank you for joining me today. Now, I have recorded hundreds of episodes of Muscle for Life, and I’ve talked. To about a huge variety of things related to health, fitness, lifestyle, mindsets, ranging from the basics of diet and exercise, like energy and macronutrient, balance and progressive overload, and training frequency and volume to fads like the ketogenic and carnivore diet and collagen protein to more unfamiliar territories like body weight, set point, and fast.
Cardio and some episodes resonate with my crowd more than others, but all of them contain at least a few key takeaways that just about anyone can benefit from. At least that’s what I tell myself. That’s what helps me sit down in the chair every day and do this, and as cool as that is. It poses a problem for you, my dear listener, especially if you are new here, and that is, ain’t nobody got time for that.
We’re talking about probably a thousand plus hours of content at this point. And while some people actually do make the time to listen to most or even. All of my podcasts, my Wang Analytics tell me that while many listeners tune in on a regular basis, they don’t catch every installment of Muscle for Life.
Thus, they miss out on insights that could help them get even just a little bit better inside and outside the gym. Because if you just get a little bit better, consistently enough, that can add up to big results in the long run. And people have also been telling me that they would like me to do more shorter multi topic.
Episodes like my q and A’s and says You episodes, and so I got an idea. How about a best of series of podcasts that contains a few of the most practical and compelling ideas, tips, and moments from my most popular? Episodes going all the way back to the beginning. This way, people who are new in particular can quickly determine if this is the droid they’re looking for, if this podcast is for them or not.
And then those who are regulars and enjoy what I’m doing, but just don’t have the time or inclination to listen to all of my stuff. And I do understand that I don’t take it personally. , you can also then benefit from the discussions and the episodes that you are not listening to in. And you can also find new episodes to listen to without having to give an hour of your time to determine whether it was worth it or not.
So here we are with the best of Muscle for Life, and in this episode you will be hearing hand picked Mors from three episodes, Lane Norton on how to avoid and overcome weightlifting injuries. Yours truly on how to change your body weight set point and. Like Matthews again on advice I would give to my younger self.
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Slash B I p. Okay, Let’s start with the takeaways from the first episode, which is Lane Norton on how to avoid and overcome weightlifting injuries. And this episode was posted June 12th, 2017. So if you like what you hear here and you want to go listen to the full interview, you can just go back to June, 2017 in my feed and find it.
What about related things related to recovery? So cuz there’s also, there’s a lot of talk and a lot of speculation on just overtraining and what is it, what point, what is overtraining even, Is it even real blah blah, blah. We don’t have to dive into that per se, but, . I think recovery is something that’s a bit more it’s a bit easier to talk about and there are definitely symptoms.
I, and I know this just from talking with people that symptoms of where they’re not, like they haven’t de let’s say they haven’t deloaded in a while. There’s a point where we all get there. If you push yourself, there are things you can objectively, while it is subjective, but it’s pretty obvious, you can go, Cool, this is what I’m, Even if you’re not looking at heart rate variability, if you’re not getting fancy about it point that point where you’re like, I’m no longer.
I need to, I need to take break. I need to, take a week off or de-load for a week or, I’m just not recovering. Maybe it’s not sleeping enough. The reason why it could be something else. But anything to add on that in terms of just symptoms of under recovering? I think if you’re always having high rpe very high rate of perceived effort even with weights, that you should be relatively easy. I think if you’re, getting some decrements and strength. Even though your training volume is high, if you are like soreness that just rolls from one workout into another. And doesn’t seem to have any kind of catch up if you are feeling worn down constantly.
But it all, those are very subjective. Like there was somebody posted something the other day, they were like, Do you feel like your physi fatigue looks better in the morning? Do you get tired in the midafternoon? Do you feel like you’re dragging through the day? This and that. And then Bob said, Good, you’re normal.
Like that. Like you should feel that way. That’s how most people feel, right? It doesn’t mean you have adrenal fatigue, or all these other, things that people make up. Yeah. So yeah because at a certain point had somebody like, Oh yeah, I’ve just been training really hard and I’m tired all the time, this and that.
And I’m like couldn’t you just be tired all the time because you’re training really hard. Yeah. Has that ever crossed your mind? Yeah. So it’s, people say, Oh, when you exercise you have so much energy. And it’s yeah. I think if you like recreationally exercising, I think the cure there is exercise.
Yeah, sure. Yeah. So you’re not like doing like training 12 week overreaching. Yeah. Training. There’s a difference between exercise and training, right? You. Yeah, when you’re doing like a 12 week overreaching, powering cycle, like you are gonna feel like garbage by the end. Like it’s gonna suck. Like I remember three weeks out from Ron Nationals in 2014, I was supposed to go in and do deadlift singles with six 60, and my best pull is 7 0 5.
So it really, it’s gonna be difficult, but it shouldn’t be that bad. And it was like the most awful experience I’ve ever had in the gym. Like it was taking me.
Five seconds for the bar to break the floor. Like it was just, yeah, it was just, it was taking me like 15 minutes in between each, In, between each single. Because I was just like having to be like, come on, it was just so terrible feeling, yeah. But then I got to the meet, I did great.
Cause you, you taper like when you, And that’s the point is like overreaching is different than over-training. Over-training is a chronic condition. That’s as far as I know, is hard to really do. You have to, It’s really hard. Most people who lift weights are not gonna get there because it’s people who do that are like triathletes and people who just train with enormous amounts of training volume.
Yeah. Us weightlifters like to think we’re tough, but at the end of the day, like That’s a good point. You’re in the gym. An hour, two hours, three hours. Yeah. Resting a, you resting half the time is resting anyway. Yeah. More than half the time is resting. These guys are training like all day. You know what I mean?
And yeah, it’s just, I think, and the notion that you can overtrain to the point where you have, like, where it causes you to lose muscle mass. that’s just never been shown. , it’s just never been shown, never been demonstrated. I think you can start to see performance decrements where your strength goes down in the short term.
Yeah. But like I said, if you, for power lifting we like purposely do that, we like purposely overtrain or overreach, and then a week away from the meet we taper and we super compensate, and you get like a, it’s like a rubber band effect, . It’s just understanding the differences between.
I feel bad. I feel a little bad. Versus just chronically being beaten down. Okay, so now let’s shift gears to, and this is where some of, what you’ve been dealing with in the last year and a half or so is gonna be very relevant. So an injury has occurred and this isn’t discomfort, this is an actual injury.
How have you gone about working around it? And even, I just know again, from talking to people, even getting, just having it explained that it’s one, that it’s not, just because you got hurt doesn’t, Again, like you were saying, if we look at it statistically if you do this for long enough, something is going to happen.
You don’t have to go in the gym every day thinking about it, but just, don’t, the point is, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you were being stupid or doing anything particularly wrong. Sometimes shit just happens. Exactly. So there’s the don’t get down on yourself of Oh, I fucked this up and it’s just cuz I’m bad at this or whatever.
So there’s that is encouraging just to know. So this happened and shouldn’t be particularly surprised that this happened. Maybe even you could have done something to prevent it from happening. Okay, fine. But now going from here, you talked a bit about what has helped in terms of seeing a good sports doctor, which I think is great advice.
But now in the gym, how have you how have you worked around some of the injuries that you’ve run into and are there any kind of like general lessons that can be Yeah, try to look for exercises that I can substitute that are close. that will allow me to maintain more of my adaptation, more of my strength, more my muscle.
. And how has that played out specifically, cuz what, So you’ve had, you’ve run into some hip issues? Some, Yep. Lower back. Lower back and some And cervical spine. Yeah. Okay. For me the squatting in particular I was getting ready for wolves in 2015, like 12 weeks out. I really started having some lower back issues and I kept trying to work through ’em, kept trying to work through.
and it just got off the point where I just couldn’t work through ’em anymore and I decided to take three weeks off of squats and I just did leg press, Cause leg press did not aggravate my lower back injury. Was leg press as good as squats? No, but it was better than doing nothing. So I did leg press for three weeks with the same or similar volume and intensity as I would on squatting. And when I went back to squatting, yes, I was weaker, but I hadn’t lost that much. . By substituting that exercise, I was able to keep more of my adaptation. But I, my rule is if there’s any pain after like an actual acute injury if I tried to substitute something and there’s any pain, I don’t do it.
Find it, find something you want, something that just feels good. That’s what you’re looking for. I tore my pack and I repaired and everything. You better believe I wasn’t in there. Be like, Oh, I can probably do some pec flies or whatever. No way. Like I. Yeah, you baby that thing, but yeah, like the hip injury, like I tried to keep squatting and it was just any hip movement at all, leg press, whatever, it didn’t matter. That just hurt. The only thing that didn’t hurt was leg extensions is leg curl. So I did leg extensions and leg curl. Yeah. I was gonna ask on that for the squatting, you also add some hamstring stuff in that didn’t bother you.
Yeah. And then glued ham raises those sorts of things, yeah. I did a lot of good mornings, cuz that’s a little. If you talk to the internet, that’s why I do anyway for squats, . That’s at least Cause you, cuz you, you’re low bar.
Yeah, exactly. Yeah. Same. No, I know. That’s just what’s comfortable with me. I don’t know. So I’ve had people like, Oh, what the fuck? Why are you so hunched over? Look at my shoulders, in my hips. They’re rising at the same, That’s just how I squat. I’m fucking tall and I have the bar low.
What do you want from me? Yeah. Like that’s the thing, like people say, Why don’t you high bar squat cuz you can be more upright. I always have to lean forward if I high bar squat, same because now my fulcrums longer, like I just fold over Same. And I just completely fold. That’s exactly what happens to me.
Yeah. So if low bar squat, just by moving it down a few inches. Yeah. I start out more forward, but I’m able to maintain that position. Same, it’s just much more comfortable for me. And people are how. I’m not unaware of any good morning where the hips go below the knees, but if you ever find one, let me know.
But yeah it’s, that’s another thing is finding the technique that works for you. I injured my lower back much more often when I was high bar squatting, then when I went to low bar it was much better. I was able to lift more weight. Yeah, finding technique that works for you and understanding.
You are an individual, your body type in terms of your structure as an individual, and you should try to find what is most comfortable, And that goes right down to the shoes you wear, the belt you wear. If you wear a belt, whatever it is. Find what you’re most comfortable in.
So if you’re not able to bench press there’s an obvious alternative of dumbbell pressing is, has that, like what, what have you done to work around okay, I gotta, I have to get off the bench for X period of time. Here’s what I’m gonna. as an altern, I still do a little bit of bench just because it doesn’t, it seems to be the sleep that aggravates it, not the bench press, but I’ll I’ll do more dumbbells, but I’ll do a lot of flies actually, cuz flies.
So that it’s the C six C seven disc, which is to your right. Tricep and so it’s my tricep that’s actually weak. Oh, I see. . And so if I take the tricep out of it, like flies, there’s almost no difference in string. So I’ll do a lot of flies. How do you like to Do you like dumbbell flies or do you like like cable flies?
Low, high, mid cable. And do you like, and then do you, where do you, like in terms of position, do you like low? Do you like medium high, usually? Medium or high. Okay. Yeah. And I’ll just, like my gym’s old school, it only has the high one, so I just bend over a little more and Oh, okay. Get the angle, get that way.
Yeah. Yeah. So cuz that’s gonna be, . It’s not obviously a press, but it’s something, yeah. can maintain your hypertrophy and then hopefully when you come back, it’s more of just a neural adaptation of getting to learn the movement.
Okey Doki. That’s it for Lane Norton on how to avoid and overcome weightlifting injuries. Again, that episode was posted back in June of 2017. In case you wanna go back and listen to the whole thing, let’s move on to the next episode that we are going to be highlighting in this episode of Best Of, and that is How to Change your Body Weight Set point.
This was a monologue from. Me posted back in September of 2018. So if you like the takeaways I’ve chosen for you, you should definitely go listen to the full episode because you’re gonna learn a lot more. All right, so let’s start with the body weight set point theory. Cause this is a theory. What is this theory?
The theory is that the body uses hormones, hunger, behavior changes, and other physiological mechanisms to. Defend a certain range of body weight and body fat in particular. So a simple way to think of this is as a thermostat or a cruise control system for body weight and for body fat levels, whatever numbers are set are what your body strives.
To maintain. Now, there’s plenty of animal research to support this theory. For example, if you starve a rat, its metabolism starts to slow down, its appetite increases, it starts to naturally move less to conserve energy. Then if you give it free access to food, it quickly will eat its way back to its starting weight and then tend to settle there.
Now on the flip side if you force feet a rat to fatten it, The opposite occurs metabolic rate and activity levels increase and appetite decreases, and it quickly returns to its starting weight now. Research shows that us humans have at least similar mechanisms in place to maintain preferred weight ranges and preferred.
Body compositions again, particularly body fatness, but unfortunately we are not wired the same way as rats. We are not big rats. Our bodies run on an asymmetrical system of body weight regulation that defends against weight loss more than weight gain, if only that were not true only or the other way around, right?
If only our body would easily give up weight loss. And defend Morgan’s weight gain. But unfortunately that’s not the case and this is the reason why for most people at least, it is much harder to lose weight and to keep it off than it is to gain it and keep it on. And this is also why people tend to get fatter over time and not leaner.
How do we influence our body weight settling point for the better. Let’s talk diet. So if you are listening to another podcast, this is where I would preach about the transformative powers of clean eating or paleo or keto or low carb or whatever. Some other type of restrictive diet, fad diet, right?
Good thing you’re here and you’re not there because I have better news for you. The best diet for maintaining a low body fat set point is simply one that is best for maintaining a state of neutral energy balance. In other words, diets that promote. Overeating are bad for both your body weight and your body weight set point and diets that promote a balance between your energy in and your energy out are good for them.
So how does that play out practically? One thing you should know is that research shows that it is easier to overeat on a high fat diet, and also obesity rates are greater. High fat dieters than low fat dieters. And that’s not surprising when you consider how calorie dense fats are, and in many people they’re not very filling either.
Protein and carbohydrate is much more filling. So unless you’re going to strictly. Regulate your calories, plan or track. You can assume that a high fat diet is going to be a recipe for a higher body weight set point. Remember what I just said a few minutes ago about 100 extra calories per day is all it takes to slowly and steadily gain weight.
And in terms of fats that’s a tablespoon of olive oil, just a tablespoon of olive oil above energy expenditure per day, and you will gain weight over time. Additionally, there’s evidence that a low fat. High carbohydrate diet is an effective way to actually normalize and stabilize body weight set points, and this is at least partially due to the facts that carbohydrates are more satiating than dietary.
Fats, which I mentioned, and that’s been demonstrated in a number of studies. Carbs tend to discourage over eating more than fats, and the body is particularly good at burning off excess carbohydrate instead of storing it as fat. In fact, carbohydrate is not directly converted into fat. Through a process known as Denovo Lipogenesis, that doesn’t really occur until carb intake, at least under normal healthy conditions.
It doesn’t occur until carbon intake. It has to be sky high. In one study, I think it took 800 grams of carbs a day for several days for DNL to contribute meaningfully to. Total body fatness, carbs contribute most to fat gain by blunting fat oxidation. So when you eat carbs, your body goes, Hey, we have this energy readily available.
We don’t need to burn body fat. Of course, we’ll just burn this. And we also don’t need to burn any of the dietary fat that was eaten. We’ll just store that. And I should mention that the research I just cited is right in line with what I see. My work every week I hear from people who are floundering on a high fat, low carb diet who are unable to break through weight loss plateaus, who are struggling with hunger cravings and so forth.
And every week I also hear from people that I’ve saved from the low carb doldrums who are now leaner and. Feeling better than ever before, following a high protein, moderately high carb and moderately low fat diet. All right, so now let’s talk about changing your body weight set point. I mentioned some dietary strategies earlier, but there are some more things that I want to share with you.
So first, let’s start with raising. We know how easy it is to raise it, right? So it’s just chronic overfeeding. That’s all it takes to raise body weight, set point, but that’s not why you’re here. Of course, you want to know how to lower it, and that is trickier. It’s trickier, but not impossible. It is doable.
You should know though, that there are no quick fixes. There are no shortcuts or bio hacks that are going to get it done. It. Patience. It takes discipline, it takes consistency, but it’s not complicated and it’s not even particularly hard. And the payoff I think, is well worth it because you can maintain low levels of body fat with relative ease.
You can develop a resistance, I guess you could say, to fat gain despite bouts of overfeeding, which is helpful for the holidays where you can, kind. Cut loose a little bit without causing too much damage. And here’s how it’s done in a nutshell. So you have to, one, reduce your body fat to the desired level, whatever that is for you, and the whole point of.
Lowering your body weight set point, of course, is maintaining a certain level of body fat. That’s really what we care about, right? We don’t care so much about weight. We care about what we see in the mirror, and that’s body composition. So the first step, of course, is getting to a low level that you’re happy with that can be maintained.
Now, for most men, I would say that’s probably eight to 10% body. Anything lower than that is gonna be unsustainable for most everybody. And for women it’s gonna be 18 to 20% body fat. And that’s also where, in my experience, at least most men and women are happiest. That is where you look athletic. You have abs you have muscle definition all over your body, and you can eat a fair amount of food and you don’t have to develop an eating disorder.
So that’s point number. Reducing your body fat to the desired level. Point number two is adding muscle to your frame because nothing will help you maintain a low body weight set point, like adding a substantial amount of muscle to your body and. You don’t have to get fat to do this either. If you’re not sure how to do that, head over to Muscle for life.com and search for bulking and read the article I wrote on that, which is really all about lean bulking.
And the reason for this is muscle is a metabolically active tissue, meaning that the more muscle you have, the greater your basal metabolic rate is, the greater the amount of energy your body burns at rest is, and the greater your BMR is the. Food you get to eat every day without gaining fat.
Additionally, research shows that the more muscle you have, the less fat you gain in response to overeating. And that’s big, because what that means is the more muscular you are, the less you are. Punished for eating too much, you have more wiggle room. And that works wonders for long term dietary compliance and long term body weight maintenance.
Because what that means is you get to fairly regularly indulge in some high calorie feasts with little to no consequences. So the key takeaway here is the more muscle you have, the easier it is for you to get and stay lean. All right, that was point number two. Point number three. Use your exercise and your diet routines to maintain health and body composition.
So as I discussed earlier in this episode, the longer you remain at a given body weight, the easier it becomes to just stay there. That becomes your body’s default, and the healthier your body is, the better its hormones are going to support that to support your efforts to stay lean.
Okey Doki. That’s it for the highlights from how to Change your Body Weight Set Point. Again, this episode was posted back in September of 2018, just heard, and you want to hear more. Go check out the full episode and let’s now move on to the third and. Final episode that we are going to be featuring here, and that is a Motivation Monday episode I did called Advice I’d Give to My Younger Self.
This episode was posted on April 1st, 2019 and know it was not an April 1st joke, although I should do that one of these years. I always think of it after the fact. Mental note. April 1st, 2021. I’m going to think of something that will hopefully make you laugh. If you like what I’m doing here on the podcast and elsewhere, definitely check out my v i p one-on-one coaching service because my team and I have helped people of all ages and circumstances lose fat, build muscle, and get into the best shape of their life faster than they ever thought possible, and we can do the same for you anyway.
Let’s get to the take. This is a motivational Monday episode, and that means we are starting with a quote. So this one comes from Shirley Chisholm and she said, Service is the rent we pay for the privilege of living on this earth. Now I am 34 years old, so I’m not sure I am quote unquote old enough to do something like this justice just yet, but I definitely know a lot more.
Then I did in my teens and twenties, and I definitely have experienced some stinging slings and arrows and learned from some major missteps and mistakes, and I’m okay with that. I actually wouldn’t have it any other way. You see there’s a concept in Japanese culture called W sobi, and it represents the beauty of the fleeting.
Changeable and imperfect nature of the world around us, and it tells us to not just seek and accept perfection, but learn to appreciate things that are imperfect and incomplete. This, for example, is why. The Japanese place value on irregular and cracked kitchenware, and why they often fix broken objects with gold.
The defects are seen as unique additions to the objects. They’re seen as indispensable parts of the objects, histories, and they add to their complexity and beauty. To the Japanese. These are the things that most resemble the natural world, and I like to think of myself and my life in the same light to echo Hemingway.
No matter what we do in our lives, the world will always find ways to break us, but that doesn’t mean that we can’t fix what’s broken and create a beautiful. And that’s why I don’t care about trying to be perfect so much as trying to be alive, because I think that’s what it’s really about. So here are the 24 pieces of advice that I’d give to my younger self, and these are in no particular order.
Write more books. This is the nucleus of your brand. Don’t invest more time or money into something that is clearly not working. Change direction instead and move on. Celebrate the milestones and victories, including the smaller ones. Your team will appreciate it. Study your failures more closely. Dig for the key takeaway.
Try not to spread yourself so thin. Moving faster on fewer projects is a smarter way to work. Have definitely learned that one, except you can’t help everybody and especially those who do not want to be helped. Be nicer. Being quote unquote right is not enough. Spend more time with your baby’s son. He’s pretty awesome.
Consider your wife’s advice more. She’s sharp. Don’t let people lie to you because it harms them even more than you. Read more. There is so much to learn. Stop looking at porn. Life is just better without it. Talk things over with people you trust. You do not always know best. Always try to deal with what is not what you wish were the moment you stop running away from the truth, you wake up.
Take a vacation now and then you’ve earned it, man. Do not try to fix broken people only they can fix themselves. Be more thankful and express. Have more sex. It’s not just fun, but it is also the easiest way to improve your marriage, and there’s actually research on that. Science says, Fuck, don’t fight.
Refuse to associate with hypocrites, parasites and liars. Do not become emotionally entangled with these people or let them bargain with you. Just leave. Don’t be generous to a fault because there is a word for that sucker. Before doing anything significant, consider all the alternatives you can think of.
Your first few ideas are rarely going to be your best. Spend more time formally outlining your goals and plans because you will get to where you want to go faster, Moralize less. It is obnoxious and selfish. And last. Have fun, have as much fucking fun as you can because no amount of money or quote unquote, success is as satisfy.
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