Almost everyone knows someone who is unfit and lives an unhealthy lifestyle. In fact, chances are good that someone you care about or even a family member fits this description, whether they’re overweight, obese, a heavy drinker, smoker, or completely sedentary.
So, it’s not too surprising that I’m often asked by people who have started their fitness journeys and seen the benefits of getting healthier, “how can I convince my friend/dad/wife/cousin to lose weight, start working out, or get fit?”
Of course, we all want our loved ones to live long, healthy lives. But avoiding disease, dysfunction, and an early death aren’t enough. We want to see our closest friends and family thrive and live out the best version of themselves.
And this is what I’m talking about on this podcast with Danny Matranga. We discuss the first step to helping someone else get fit, habit stacking, the importance of not giving “blanket” fitness advice, why you should be positive rather than critical, and a lot more.
In case you’re not familiar with Danny, he’s a coach and owner of Core Coaching Method, an educator, and the host of his own podcast called Dynamic Dialogue. Danny knows all about not only helping people get fit, but making that process enjoyable, which is why he’s a great guest to talk about the best ways to encourage others to adopt healthier habits.
So, if you’ve ever wanted to “convince” someone you care about to start working out, start dieting, lose weight, go to the gym with you, or just exercise enough to not be sedentary, you don’t want to miss this podcast!
0:00 – Pre-order my new fitness book now for a chance to win over $12,000 in splendid swag: https://www.muscleforlifebook.com/
8:04 – How do you “convince” someone to start working out, diet, or live a healthier lifestyle?
9:16 – How many people are obese?
11:52 – What are the government recommendations for how much to move?
17:12 – What’s the first step of encouraging someone to get started?
20:26 – What is habit stacking?
24:02 – Why you should be positive and encouraging rather than criticizing.
27:09 – Why you can’t give the same advice to everyone.
35:44 – How has social media affected expectations of how much work it takes to get fit and healthier?
43:07 – What about people who aren’t ready to make any changes yet?
48:09 – What about people with physical limitations or accessibility issues?
48:56 – Is a TRX useful?
1:01:28 – The formula for “convincing” others to get fit.
1:05:24 – Where can people find you and your work?
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I’m Mike Matthews. Thank you for joining me today. And before we get into it, if you haven’t already, please do subscribe to the show in whatever app you are listening to me in so you don’t miss any new episodes. And it also helps me because it boosts the rankings of the show. So this episode is for anyone who knows someone who is not in shape, who is not living a particularly healthy lifestyle.
And that’s all of us. Chances are someone you care about is not in shape and not living a particularly healthy lifestyle. Maybe a family member, maybe a partner. And chances are you have at least tried to encourage these people to make positive changes, to eat a little bit better, to move around a little bit more.
And chances are it didn’t go over very well. Now, I’m assuming these things because I am often asked about this by people who themselves have made great strides in their health and fitness, and who want to help a friend or a dad or a wife or a cousin do the same thing, want to help them lose weight and gain muscle and gain strength.
And in really every case of the people I hear from, they want the best for their friends and their loved ones. They want them to live longer. They want them to live better, not just avoid disease and dysfunction, but to thrive, to flourish. And that’s what this podcast is about. In it, I talk with my buddy, Danny Meranga, and we discuss how to help people take their first steps, how to help them overcome inertia and start moving in the right direction, start getting results, which then motivates them to continue and eventually they reach that virtuous cycle phase where they’re getting enough good results to want to keep going.
So they keep going and they just keep on getting more good results and so on and so forth. That’s the goal, really, right? Cause eventually that becomes a lifestyle that becomes a core set of powerful habits that we can continue for the rest of our lives. And so we talk about stuff like. Stacking the importance of not giving blanket one size fits all fitness advice, being positive instead of critical.
And a lot more. And in case you are not familiar with Danny, he is a coach. He is the owner of Core Coaching Method and he’s the host of his own podcast, which he has had me on called Dynamic Dialogue. And Danny has a lot of in the trenches at the coal face experience helping everyday people get fit. He understands not just the science, the theory, but also the practical.
And sometimes those things don’t quite align, meaning that. Has been shown effective in a scientific study may not work well with personal training clients because they can’t stick to it, for example. So sometimes you have to inject a little bit of art into the science to make it actually work. So if you have someone in your life who you care about and who you would love to see leading a more active lifestyle, living a more healthy lifestyle than this episode’s for you.
Hey, Danny, happy what is today? Wednesday? Happy Wednesday. That’s a thing, right? Yeah. It is now. Oh yeah. Oh it’s hump day. It’s hump day. We’re over the hump, yes.
Danny: So then we can drink much better, drink ourselves into oblivion or something on the weekend, that’s the, I’ve made it through the first 20 hours of my miserable 40 hour work week, and I can see the weekend.
Mike: I’m almost drowning myself in sedatives in alcohol and sport and sports ball. Don’t forget sports ball.
Danny: Hey, I will give a lot of my Sunday to football, so be careful. ,
Mike: I’ll watch the occasional sports ball game. I, if it’s playoffs, otherwise takes too much time and I’m just not, I’m not into it enough.
I always enjoyed sports. Growing up I enjoyed playing and I enjoyed like collecting cards, but I never got into.
Danny: Yeah, I love it all. I think it, it’s an extension of some of what I do in the fitness space and just working with people and then you have a deeper appreciation as somebody who moves their body more and pursues athletic endeavors.
When you see somebody do some shit that just most humans can’t, you go, All right, that was pretty cool. Yeah. There’s an extra level of appreciation there.
Mike: For sure. It’s fun to see freaky people doing super freaky things. Exactly. But what are we here to talk about? We’re here to talk about how this is the question that, to pose to you, right?
And it’s something that I know you’ve been asked many times and I’ve been asked , and so I’ve addressed this privately with people, but it occurred to me when I was going over a little list of potential ideas that things we could talk about that I don’t, I’ve never written about it explicitly or really spoken about it much, maybe just tangentially.
And that is how do you convince I’m putting that in scare quotes for people listening because it’s not I think that’s the wrong frame for the conversation. But this is what I’ll be asked. How do I convey or even how do I force, but how do I convince my family member, my brother or my spouse, or my close friend to start working out or to start dieting or to just start living a healthier lifestyle?
Danny: I think the reason that those questions are opposed to us with the convince as being the operative word there is because people are at a place of desperation. Like a lot of people that you love, that, I love that the listeners of this podcast love are not living a life that is quote unquote healthy.
And again, in recent years, what that means has been debated. Bickered yelled about, nobody wants to go out on a limb and say, Hey, that being obese is probably not a good long term health plan for yourself because nobody wants to be dragged through the streets as being insensitive. And I can get down with that, but there are a lot of people out there who are really struggling and I took a look at the data because I was like, Okay, how many people in my life and your life and most people’s life are living unhealthy, overweight, obese, not moving, not meeting activity guidelines.
And In 2015 I had to dig these numbers up because I needed to have something to work with. But in 2015, the cdc, and again, trigger warning, regardless what you think of the cdc this data seems to be pretty darn good. 36.9% of US adults were obese in 2015, 16. So the obesity prevalence was about 37% amongst adults.
And we know it’s been climbing rapidly with children, and children are outpacing adults, and the reason they’re outpacing adults is because children get their food and exercise habits from their parents. But in 2018, that number jumped up to 42.2%, which is a 1.7% increase per year. If you extrapolate that out to 2021, that would be.
Mike: 47.5% of adults are overweight or obese. Or obese, up to 70% are overweight. Yeah, I would say that’s obese
Danny: And that’s conservative. If that’s just extrapolating the rate increase from 2016 to 2018, that does not take into account these other worldly impacts of something like a global pandemic,
Mike: like staying at home for a year and feeling like the worlds gonna end.
Danny: And yeah, some people would argue that’s probably not the best thing for your long term health. I would tend to agree with that. So like the operative number here that I’m working with is 50%. It’s I think 47 point. Yeah. Obese.
Mike: Yeah. And then overweight upward of 90, or sorry.
Danny: Upward. Yeah. Up to 80.
And so if you think about that means about half of the people in your life are obese and eight outta 10 people that you know are overweight. And for us fitness fanatics, for people who love to go to the gym, for people who love to exercise, that’s unfathomable. But we are in the minority. And one of the things that I think we have failed at is trying to, I don’t wanna say extend the olive branch because it’s not really like we’re brokering some piece deal here, but we haven’t done the best job of communicating to the people who don’t move, who don’t exercise, who don’t monitor their diet at all.
That hey, I know I worked out five days a week. I know I track my macros and I know I take protein powder and creatine and stuff that to use seems like overkill. But you don’t have to start there. You can start with anything. I even looked into it cuz I wanted to know what are, and again, I wouldn’t rely on the government to be your kind of fitness coach here, but what is the government recommendations for movement?
And the CDC wants people to move for 150 minutes a week and perform two strenuous muscular sessions. Things that challenge your muscles more than normal. That’s the verbiage. So 150 minutes of movement and two resistance training sessions per week, that is something that 77% of Americans don’t do.
So we know 50% are overweight, or 50% are obese, 80% are overweight, and 77% don’t meet the movement guidelines. So there is a lot of wiggle room between where most of us and most of your listenership is at and where the average American is at. And I think what we need to do a better job of is bridging that gap.
Wouldn’t you say?
Mike: Yeah I agree. And that’s something that that’s one of the reasons why I have this new book coming out, which is for men and women, it’s called Muscle for Life, and it really is to cater to middle-aged people. And then you can. Also though, add into that people, especially who are very new to all of this, have a lot of weight to lose.
And who, You wouldn’t start with something like my existing programs like bigger Lean or stronger if I have a 55 year old guy who has to lose a lot of weight. He’s, he doesn’t do any exercise right now, and he, let’s say, has never done any strength training. I’m not gonna start him with heavy.
Barbell bench pressing and squatting and deadlifting. He could work up to that. But, I’m gonna start him with some body weight stuff. That’s where we’re gonna start. And then we’re gonna work into some bands, and then we’re gonna work into some dumbbells only. And maybe he can grab a trap bar at that point and in time he could work up to, if he wants to go that far to, to something that, that is more traditionally a strength training program.
And I totally agree and that’s one of the goals for this book of mine that’s coming out is I hope to show people that there is a. A, a relatively smooth on ramp to a lot of totally what on Instagram, and even if you see in my own stuff and it seems completely out of the realm of possibility for you.
I do understand that and know though, that if you want to get to the kind of stuff that I do and you want to have at least the type of physique maybe that I have, you can do that. But currently I don’t have a book. I don’t have just one thing I can give that person,
And I think that’s been the larger struggle, which is most people who are in these large percentages that I’ve been naming, most people who exist in these majority groups are being deconditioned, overweight, obese, not active. I don’t think I, I really don’t believe that they want to be that way. I do believe that they would like to probably lose some body fat.
They’d like to move better, they’d like to feel better, They’d like to be a little bit more confident. Maybe their confidence isn’t affected by the way they look. But, I’ve worked with the general public for a decade now, and I can tell you that most people, it fucking is, Whether they’re gonna tell you that up front or whether 5, 6, 7 personal training sessions in, they’re gonna tell you that they haven’t had sex with their husband in 10 years, one way or another.
I think that there’s a lot of people who deep down are dealing with, I really wanna change how I look and feel, but it’s daunting. What you just said, like this is a long runway. We don’t need to start with five days a week of resistance training. We can start with one or two. We can start with body weight.
And that’s the biggest thing when people ask me the question, how do I convince my loved ones to work out? Or how do I encourage my loved ones to work out? The first thing I can tell ’em is, you gotta acknowledge, Juan, where you’re at, what this means to you, what your habits are, and then rewind in your mind and think to how you got here.
You probably didn’t start off following, really nice calculated split where all your volume was dispersed evenly and you’re calculating your rps and you’re working off one repetition maxes and you’re, waiting patiently for your three minute rest period to end so you can perform your beautifully executed barbell work.
No, you probably started, like a lot of us started where you just went to the gym, you threw short the wall, started doing things and it stuck. Yeah. And. For most people. Honestly, if all you did was go to the gym and train like an idiot, or what the initiated would call training like an idiot, that would be phenomenal.
Mike: But if you enjoy it, that’s a great place to start.
Danny: If you enjoy it, you’ll do it. And one of my biggest frustrations, and I am so guilty of this because when I was first getting started in the fitness industry and I was an insecure personal trainer looking to make a name for myself, the first thing I would do is I’d find anybody who was doing something exercise related that I felt was suboptimal and I’d bag on him.
Oh, CrossFit. That’s so dumb. Oh, Zumba, that’s so dumb. And a again, warranted, these things are probably not optimal long term for muscular development, body composition, injury prevention, whatever. But it beats the shit out of doing what 80% of Americans do, which is nothing. So again you’ve gotta acknowledge where you’re at first, and then whoever this loved one is, it is much trickier with spouses I found.
But whoever this loved one is, First order of business is meet them where they are at. If you can find something for them that is enjoyable, that makes them wanna show up, that might have some kind of community, whether that’s you going with them or them going to a class, that stuff is exponentially better than nothing.
So I think the first step, look at the person who you are trying to work with here. Meet them where they’re at, and lower that bar to wherever you need to lower it. Because again, if they’re currently doing zero, simply going on a walk with them after dinner is better than nothing. Offering to say, Hey, do you wanna go get a healthy lunch instead of going to Chili’s for the third time this week?
There are things that we can do, but it starts with, I think, first, lowering our expectations and meeting people where they’re at.
Mike: And I totally agree. And finding something simple. I like the the tiny habits approach to use BGA fogs to use his term Where you’re finding something.
And then this works for all of us. You could, anybody, listen, You could use it yourself if you’re wanting to get started with something, but feeling a lot of resistance. All right. What is something you could do that’s so easy that there’s just there’s no way you’re saying no to it.
Yeah. So if we’re talking about fitness, right? And again, this is a discussion I’ve had privately also with people who will ask me for some advice on getting started. Or maybe they’ve tried to get started several times and it hasn’t gone well, and they don’t want to fail again. And what I’ll find many times is they try to do too much, too fast.
And Totally. And even if they knew what they were doing and they understood yes, five days of strength training per week is better than one, Correct. , adding in some cardio that’s even better. Correct. And following a proper meal plan that’s better than just trying to eat clean. Yes, Correct.
But. Then by trying to make the, those major sea changes all at once it was just too much for them. So I’ll bring it back to Okay, so let’s just I like to start with something exercise related, and then if we’re talking about diet something, maybe we can remove one thing. So can we pull the soda out or reduce it or add something?
Can we add some protein to the diet? And on the exercise side of things, could we start with, it may just be going for a 30 minute walk a few times a week, or if a person, sometimes people, especially these days, people working from home. They often have calls they have to do. And I’ll propose to them, Why don’t you then, let’s say you have a 30 minute call, you have to do at 4:00 PM can you go for a walk while you’re doing the call?
I love that. And then we get these habits, we get some momentum, and then they feel up to adding a little bit more. And same thing on the diet side. And eventually then, instead of again, trying to go from zero to 100 we just get gradually there and after a couple of months, now they’re smoothly in the groove.
They were trying to force themselves into. In the beginning.
Danny: Totally. And there’s a lot to unpack there. The first thing that you hit on that I love is habit stacking, which is that to borrow from another habit. Author is a James Clear thing and habit stacking is take something you have to do and combine it with something that you know that you need to do.
So if you know that movement is a priority, and like you said, you have a phone call to do, take the phone, call on a walk. Try to combine things that you have to do with, things that you need to do with regards to nutritional change. Like that. That tends to be the most challenging one for people. And I think, I love the idea of, hey, don’t eat fast foods.
Start with that. Or Hey, eliminate processed foods if you can. Or even something that I do with clients, which is, cuz I find that the minute you start taking things away from people, you really run the risk of scaring them off. One of the things I really like to do is tell them to do more protein, more water, more vegetables, and more sleep.
I’m not gonna take anything from you, I just want you to focus on eating more of these things. Because what I know from my practice, working with clients, working as a nutrition coach with people for years, if you eat more protein, you eat more vegetables and you drink more water, you don’t eat as much crap because your satiety is through the roof.
You’re getting the nourishment that you need and oftentimes that works even. Than telling people to give up some stuff. But I do like the point, like if you obviously are pounding back multiple sodas a day, or you’re starting every day with a 600 calorie Starbucks, mc, Flury, Frappuccino calorie bomb, basically a mask gain or in a 16 ounce cup like you, you should probably cut out the obvious stuff while making some small behavioral changes there.
And if you start small, if you hold people’s hands along the way, you will get them there. But one of the things you hit on this, and I think this is a good segue, is a almost everybody who wants to lose weight has tried before and they failed. And so one of the things that. Those of us who are initiated, or those of us who are privileged enough to be asked for help because we are, already in the rhythm.
We’ve already got it. People look to us and go, Damn you’ve got this figured out. Shit, you look great with your shirt off. I saw you at the barbecue and your plate was half vegetables. Like, how do you do it? , One of the things we, we often do is we remind people of their failures.
We, we will tell, Oh remember the time you tried keto? Or oh, how is this any different from that MLM bullshit you, you fell into? Or, how is this any different from the intermittent fasting? And even though it’s nice to get jabs in and it makes us feel good. It’s generally bad practice to remind people of their past failures.
So if somebody comes to you as tempting as it might be to, quote unquote watch film and be like, See, this is where you fucked up. Look right here. You did this, and this. Try to stay away from negativity. Try to stay away from reminding people where they failed. If you keep reminding people, Oh, this is what your third or fourth time trying to lose weight, you just gotta stick with it this time.
Come on. I, you always start and stop. That is a huge mistake that I think we make, because again, for us, it seems easy. But for these people, it’s Hey, I’m coming to you because I’m trying to maybe start a habit. Yeah, maybe it’s the fourth or fifth time, but, undermining their confidence by reminding them of all their past failures.
Never a good idea. And this is very common with spouses. This stuff tends to be this like low grade background bickering that’s really common with spouses. And so if you can, instead of doing that opt for recognizing even the smallest, seemingly most insignificant positive shit Hey, I saw you took that call when you went for a walk and I just wanted to give, or, I saw you went for a walk when you took that call.
I just wanted to give you kudos. Or Hey babe I saw you had a big serving a protein on your plate. That’s awesome. Or, Hey, I, you went to the gym three times this week. Gimme a high five. Recognize more of what people are doing positive, even if it’s not moving the scale, even if it seems insignificant.
And try to the best of your ability to at least reframe negativity or failures as learning opportunities. Never hammer them because, and often oftentimes we’re dealing with people who already lack confidence as it
Mike: is. Yeah. Compliments. And like you said just positive acknowledgements can really go a long way.
And that’s, I think, a good just general relationship tip. Not even just romantic relationships, but Totally. That’s a business tip for any people who manage people. And it’s something that it doesn’t come naturally or to, to me it actually doesn’t probably because it starts with I never cared much to get complimented myself like totally my own.
Judgment of my work, for example, or myself has always mattered more to me than than other people’s ideas about me and the things I do or don’t do. And I, that’s something I’ve had to just get into the conscious habit of with, I’m thinking particularly with people who work with me where I wouldn’t, I’m not someone to put people down, certainly not to attack them as people.
If they make mistakes, I’ll point out mistakes. But I was not instinctively the type of person who would make a point of noticing when people are doing things well and just pointing it out. Again, probably because I never expected it or cared one way or another, whether I. From bosses or peers,
Danny: totally. And like all of us have some level of insecurity, like aware and how much that is, is highly variable. And it probably has a lot to do with how you were raised, how your parents treated you, your environment, your nur, your nurturing environment as a kid. Oh, if you’re a hyper secure adult who doesn’t need a lot of compliments, like that’s awesome.
And you and I are probably both people who give less compliments than maybe we should because we operate just fine without getting them from other people. But they are giving a compliment is a little bit of a superpower in my opinion when it comes to coaxing somebody along in getting them to do something that is probably uncomfortable, is high friction and not necessarily easy.
Kind of just segueing into this next piece that I think a lot of people really struggle with because if you’re listening to this and you’re listening to Muscle for Life, or you listen to my podcast, you’re probably already initiated. You’re probably already somewhat into your fitness. And when people come to you and they ask you for advice, it’s very important when you give a prescription, whether it’s as a fitness professional, a fitness author, a fitness podcaster, a fit friend of somebody who’s not fit, or just somebody who’s generally, come to for advice that you put this advice into context.
And so this is I’ll share a failure I made a lot early on in my training career. I started personal training when I was 18 years old, going to school to do my undergraduate work, working with mostly moms and mostly older people. And so I couldn’t have been more of a 180 from my target market, or not necessarily my target market, but the market that I got to work with.
Because, not, and not everybody’s signing up to do personal training with the 18 year old kid, with the retainer and the pimples. A lot of people, were like, Are you then old enough to do this ? And so what you need to do is you need to acknowledge that, like what works for a now 26 year old, I have a girlfriend, but I’m not married.
I don’t have kids. I don’t have nearly the amount of responsibilities that, a 44 year old mother of two might who’s coming to me for weight loss. She might, I might need to apply a different context to her life. And so for me, you can’t just tell
Mike: her it’s not a matter of not having time.
Don’t gimme that bullshit. It’s just priorities. , it’s crazy that, that would work with you. Where if you were to say, No, I just don’t have the time, it’d be like, Danny, you have a girlfriend, you don’t have kids. You’re 26. What are you talking about? Of course you have time. It’s, but that’s not the same with.
Danny: It’s not, and I do it all the time because it’s, again, it’s frustrating. We are, we’re imperfect beings and I still, to this day, I get trapped in this we have 176 hours in a week. If you worked two 40 hour a week jobs, that would still give you like fucking 96 hours a week to work out. Come on, give me three of those.
I’m gonna dunk on you with math, you lazy, sedentary, degenerate, dammit. But it’s not particularly warm or helpful. And so again, learning from the mistakes I’ve made, when you’re looking to meet somebody where they’re at, when you’ve made the decision to front load the compliments, to front load the kindness, to push off the negativity, you will already be laying the foundation.
The next step then is saying, Okay, look, I’m 26, I got no kids. I work out five days a. That ain’t gonna work for you probably. What is your baam? What is your bare ass minimum? Can you give me two hours? Okay, cool. If you can give me two hours, let’s get two total body resistance training sessions, and this is where we get to have a little fun because for people like you and I, we have a rough idea of what’s probably ideal for building muscle from a scientific application of, training principal standpoint.
Should you train one to three times a week? Probably two. Probably the sweet spot. As far as frequency goes, should you focus on compounds over isolation exercises? Most likely, especially if you’re crunched for time. Should you train only in one rep range? Probably not. You should probably diversify a little bit.
Should you train, a little bit more anaerobically than Anaerobically. Yeah. Okay, cool. Mary Muffin top, who’s 44 and has two kids, guess what? If she can go to the gym twice, she can actually follow that criteria. She can train two total body resistance training based. Sessions that are selecting for mostly compound movements, trained somewhat close to failure, but not to failure and achieve phenomenal results.
And if you tell that person, Hey, you know that starting with just two times a week is probably phenomenal. And if you get to do that and you get to a point where you’ve done it for a 3, 4, 5 weeks in a row, we can explore adding another session that’s a lot more palatable than going I’ll tell you what, I go to the gym five days a week and I track literally everything I put in my mouth.
And that’s just what it takes. If you wanna, do it because we use these opportunities oftentimes when people come to us to kind oft our own flute instead of actually providing advice that’s, through a lens that’s contextually applicable to this person. And so I think what we do once we’ve laid this foundation of, Yep, I’m here to help.
I’m not here to dunk on you. I’m gonna give you positive feedback. Make sure that your prescriptions are relevant to the person. Holy shit, so many people miss this step and they just give like blanket recommendations that would work phenomenally in a vacuum. Or it’s okay, yeah, if I was a discount code income driven influencer who like my primary dealings in the day are posting a few things that make me money and then I have all day to train and do whatever I want, that’s not going to apply to the 80% of people who are overweight.
The 50 plus percent now who might be obese and the 77% who don’t meet movement requirements. We gotta start small. And many
Mike: of these people have heard, and you’ve seen a lot of these headlines, a lot of these articles, particularly over the last couple of years, how useless exercise is for losing weight.
And that’s something I’ve talked about and why that’s just wrong period. , but many people who are currently not doing anything and who could use some gentle persuasion to start doing something. In my experience, many of these people, they don’t realize that doing one or two strength training workouts per week and going for a 30 minute walk every day.
Is gonna do wonders for them that, that’s actually all they need with you. You combine that with some basic understanding of how to control their food appropriately. It could be portion control, it could just be a a sensible, depending on how much weight they have to lose. They may not need to bother with weighing anything, measuring anything.
Just a totally a good simple quote unquote intuitive eating kind of approach where you’re getting most of your food from the stuff that’s good for you. You include some stuff that is not very nutritious, but it’s nice to eat and that. That little program right there could help them lose a hundred pounds and completely transform their fitness.
But many of these people, they, again, in my experience, they’ve been surprised. Like they don’t believe me at first when I tell them that totally like really you’re saying all I have to do is Two hours, maybe three hours of strength training per week and go for some walks. And maybe if I wanna do a little bit more on the weekend, I could ride my bike or something.
That’s it. That’s all it takes. And those people are often surprised as well when they ask me. Okay. So what is your routine? They’re thinking that I’m in the gym 10 hours a week. Training double days. Yep. Two a days. And I don’t eat, I haven’t eaten a car. What was the what was, I haven’t eaten a carbs since 2013 or whatever.
And I flogged myself like a religious zealot if I dare eat any sugar. And they’re surprised to hear that. And for people that singing probably I give. Periodic updates of here’s what I’m doing, here’s how it’s going. But I lift weights about five hours per week, and I do 30 minutes of cardio, six or seven days per week.
And I just stack that with usually work calls. So I, I have calls I have to do anyway. I would do it on the podcast if I could, but I’d be breathing. It would be obnoxious. But I have Kohl’s usually I have to do. And if I don’t have a work call, I like to take a little bit of time. And I’ve been better about this recently to just stay in touch with friends.
Whereas previously all I would do is work and I wouldn’t really have much social interaction at all with anybody outside of my family. And but I’ll usually, I’ll be on a phone call and 30 minutes on the bike, medium intensity. So I’m breathing a bit, but I can have a conversation and that’s it.
And then the diet side of things. People, I follow exactly what we’ve basically been talking about is higher, got protein, a lot of nutritious foods. I’m not a big. Quote unquote junk food person. But I’ll have some ice cream once a week. Eat a big pint of ice cream cuz why not? And maybe if I end up going to a restaurant, I’m gonna eat whatever I want there.
Or I’ll cook something like a big pasta meal or something like that. And again, so people are often surprised that what they can get out of what seems like. A little or a or just a, an inappropriately low level of effort, especially when they look on Instagram and see people doing two a days and Totally.
Danny: I do feel that social media has not helped because we tend to find people in our space, the people who have the most followers, the people who have the best physiques, they will often promote hellacious, incredibly difficult workouts, posting, about their hard work and their dedication and, Oh I threw up days off meme.
Hashtag your days off. Yeah I threw up a meme. My workout routine is analogous to being a warrior or a lion. Like I am so fucking, I’m not, I’ve transcended alpha, like you plebes could only dream to be as hard working as I am. And it’s bro your definition. Hard work. It’s like a two hour arm day like this.
This woman is dragging like two children around exhausted, barely getting any sleep. She, like the real hard workers in many cases are the people who are trying to integrate exercise into their life. It’s just chaotic and it’s hard. And I do struggle a little bit. I grapple with the intellectual gymnastics that would be required for somebody to write an article that says exercise doesn’t help you lose weight.
Oh you’ve seen them though, right? I have, and unfortunately, I believe that this is somewhat of an extension of the healthy at any size movement that in a lot of ways is good, but in a lot of ways requires some intellectual dishonesty and some intellectual gymnastics that those of us who are initiated would go, Hold on a second.
Yes. For a long time we. Absolutely put way too much stock and way too much weight into how important exercise is for weight loss compared to nutrition. I say this all the time, if you wanna find out just how like hard it is to quote unquote outwork a bad diet, do a 10 calorie salt bike sprint.
Tell me how you feel because that’s the equivalent of one tortilla chip. Like one tortilla chip has about 10 calories. And if you’ve ever been to a Mexican restaurant, you know that nobody fucking eats one tortilla chip. You eat them until they bring whatever the hell else you ordered. And to try to burn that off would be futile.
So I do understand where these people are coming from, but we’re framing it so disingenuously, even if exercise directly did nothing to help you lose weight, which it does, albeit exponentially less than monitoring your nutrition, following the habits we’ve outlined already. What it does for you indirectly is phenomenal, particularly resistance training.
We know resistance training improves insulin sensitivity. We know it improves muscle mass. We know it improves strength. We know it improves bone density. We know that it builds confidence, right? We know that it improves coordination. These things all matter, independent of what you fucking weigh. And also it’s going to encourage you to have more.
You know you’re going to do other things well, you’re going to work a little harder when you’ve got this resistance training habit in place. One of the things that I started noticing, people telling me once they got into a rhythm working with me as a trainer 5, 6, 7 years ago, they’d be like, I’m, I’m not gonna eat that today, Uhuh.
I worked way too hard and I was like, I like that, Like not that you should restrict things, but somebody who for a decade and a half, a decade plus was. I don’t give a shit about my body. I’m not worth the exercise. I’m not gonna care about what I eat. For them to then become, you know what? I busted my butt today.
I’m gonna give my body what I think I need, not what I think I want. that’s a really cool place to get to. So to undermine exercise’s, ability to support being in the right caloric environment for weight loss. I hate that. I think it’s disingenuous and I honestly think the people that probably write these articles might fall into the camp we’re talking about now.
Maybe there’s somebody who has tried every exercise modality in the book and failed and felt inclined to write some tacky Forbes article about, hey study shows exercise doesn’t help compensatory overeating.
Mike: You just can’t get away from it. .
Mike: And this is their straight jacket. Stuff themselves into, and it’s like they’re trying to project,
Danny: It’s exactly what it is.
And it’s unfortunate, and again, if you lead with empathy and you try not to just, Hey, that’s stupid, that’s dumb. I’m gonna come out and attack this person. And instead you go, Okay, maybe they’re a lost cause. But somebody out there in this, 340 million Americans, if we assume that 80% of them are overweight, we’re talking north of 250 million people.
There’s 250 million people out there who might be inclined to hear me out when I say, Yeah, you’re not gonna lose 50 to 60 pounds eating like shit and lifting weights twice a week. But you might lose 50 to 60 pounds if you lift weights twice a week and pay half, the amount of new, like a little bit 50%.
Focus on your nutrition. Like we really can move mountains if we just start small. But our, I would say our large failure as an industry, as a whole has been overselling the importance of, beast mode hashtag team, no days off. Hashtag you gotta want it harder than, you gotta want it more than I do.
I do think we’ve fumbled that and we should instead be promoting, hey if you’re getting out there two to three times a week and not eating like an ass, you’re gonna get there. So long as you remain patient and understand that this process is allowed to be slow, and if you’re doing it right, it’s probably going to be slow.
And that’s another thing is. Set these expectations in advance, that weight loss. I do this a lot with the clients that I work with online and with my coaching company, is people come to me and they wanna lose 50, a hundred, 150 pounds. And I often will tell them, Hey, month one you might not lose anything.
And I want you to be okay with that because our first month is going to be about habits. And there’s so many things happening physiologically inside you when you start this, that looking at month one as a, and what that scale says in month one as a barometer for your success it’s probably going to disappoint you.
Let’s wait till month two or three. Because people want it and they want it now. You know that, especially as somebody who runs a supplement company, you know that people are just hardwired to lean into instant gratification. And I think if you can start by saying, I’m gonna be nice to you. I’m gonna be encouraging, I’m gonna be complimentary.
I’m gonna scale this for wherever the hell you’re at. I’m gonna put it into the context of the other stuff that matters. If you have kids, I know exercised and tracking calories, it’s probably gonna be three or four on the importance level. It’s not gonna be number one like it is for me. And I’m also gonna take the time to go the extra mile to let you know that it’s not gonna happen fast.
And that if you’re cool with that, like we might get somewhere these are the things that you have to deal with people and we’re fighting an uphill battle. But I think it’s one we can win. We just have to, get out of this default. I need it now. I want it now. And my smartphone has conditioned me to, make me think I should get it.
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And there’s probably another subset of people we should quickly comment on, and that is people who are not ready to make any changes yet, and that can be hard to accept when it’s somebody close to us, somebody we care about. And they are. Living a very unhealthy lifestyle.
Let’s say sedentary, overweight, let’s throw in usually there’s obviously their diets are not gonna be great. Let’s throw in alcohol,
Danny: cigarettes, drugs, you name
Mike: it. Yep. And poor sleep hygiene. And you see basically that this person is slowly killing themselves. And then and I just know that fortunately I haven’t dealt with this firsthand, but I have worked through it with many people secondhand who were dealing with it firsthand.
And they can get very frustrated because it is frustrating when you’re trying to help somebody and it just doesn’t get, it doesn’t get anywhere. Especially when you’re dealing with something that is so black and white in terms of the data. And you would think that I could just show you that, Look, here’s all the evidence that if you keep.
Going down this road, it is a dead end and you are going to, It is not going to end well for Yeah, you are going to hit that wall sooner probably rather than later. What are your thoughts on that?
Danny: think it’s a great point and, we talked a little bit off air about the pandemic, and I’m not gonna bring that back up, but I do think that we’ve learned in the last two years that if you just try to dunk on people with data and look, they’re not going to be as receptive to that.
And if somebody is not ready it presents of course a lot more friction and it’s a lot larger challenge. And
Mike: I don’t think, like arguing with people, for example, it just never worked. Yeah. I don’t When, have you ever won an argument in the sense where the person after the heated exchange was, You know what, Danny, you are right, And I was totally wrong.
I have learned something today. Thank you. Totally.
Danny: That doesn’t work like that. Like you’re not gonna have, Uncle Larry go, You know what? You really framed my obesity and alcohol dependency in such a way that I’m like massively encouraged to take up an extremely anxiety. I’m coming to the gym with you too.
Yeah. Let’s fucking five days a week, let’s hit the arm day. All we do some super sets like in and all actuality, if somebody’s not ready, hammering on them is going to make them that much less ready. I think what you do here is you lead by example. You extend soft. Offers of, Hey, would you like to join me for a walk?
Hey, I’m cooking up a healthy dinner. Can I make you something? Or especially if these are people who live in your orbit, if maybe they don’t live in your orbit, you might have to work a little harder. But I don’t think, and because for people like you and I who are analytical, we like the data, we like to see the numbers.
You have to remember, most people are not gonna respond well to that. And telling somebody that they’re killing themselves when they’re likely already using food and being sedentary and technology as a quote unquote buffer between some probably deeper seated emotional stuff, like piling more negativity on them probably isn’t gonna help.
So for those people who meet, who you meet with the most resistance, I think the first thing to. Let ’em know that you care about them. Let ’em know that they matter to you. And don’t make it about you. Don’t be like, Hey, if you don’t lose this weight, you’re not gonna be here for your grandkids.
You know that. That’s the break in case of emergency. Last case scenario, shit, I have deployed that with clients and it works really well, and sometimes it loses you a client. And so one of the things you have to acknowledge is that you have to tread carefully and
Mike: You can only do that when you’ve really established a good relationship with somebody, when they respect you, when they know that you really have their best interests in mind.
You are not trying to just dump on them. You know what? .
Danny: Totally. And I think that you have to remember that even inside of some romantic partnerships, some family hierarchies, people question each other’s intentions all the time. And so just remembering Hey, this isn’t about me. This is about you. I love you.
I care about you. I want you to get the most outta life. I’m here if ever you’re ready to make a change. In fact, I’m going on a walk in about a half an hour. I love it if you joined me. Small simple things like that can really make a big difference. Another population that we don’t talk about often and this is something that’s close to me cuz my dad’s disabled, is people who maybe have physical limitations or they have accessibility limitations.
Whether it’s class related, whether it’s like, Hey, I just don’t live in a neighborhood where there’s a gym that I can get to where I just can’t afford a membership. Or, I don’t have the time. Or, Hey, Super overweight and I can’t go, like I just going to a gym wouldn’t happen.
Like I’m so overweight that wouldn’t happen. Or using my dad as an example, Yes, Parkinson’s disease, so certain forms of resistance training would probably be a. Likely to be a greater risk for injury than they would for helping them. And so when you have people who maybe wanna do it, but they’re having a hard time doing it, just reminding them to do the most you can with what you have.
So for people who are stuck at home, you can do things with bands, with body weights, with walking, shit. The thing that I recommend for almost everybody who’s training from home is a trx, like a suspension trainer. These things are phenomenal for giving people external stability to do things like squats.
You can train musculature that’s super important. And so often undertrained in the general population, like the lats and upper back with things like rows and they call them T flies and wi flies to train some of the musculature of the shoulder. And you get a trx, you can effectively train your entire back.
You get a couple dumbbells. You can effectively train your entire upper body and lower body. And just with that, Or even bands. Scott Covid taught us a lot about the versatility of bands. You can bring two people who might not necessarily be inclined to go to a gym, be able to go to a gym, physically, they’re not going to be able to go to a gym.
You can bring it to them and help them out. So don’t write anybody off. Nobody’s a lost cause until they’ve decided that they are in fact a lost cause. So I do think one of the things content creators, trainers in the fitness space do a lot is we try to curate our content. We try to curate our messaging and everything that we do to the people who.
Already initiated I was gonna make a post about how you could exercise two days a week, but then I decided to make a post about this sick ass anatomically a correct lateral blood restriction
Mike: training for my biceps so I can get in an extra five sets per week. .
Danny: Exactly. Yeah. Oh, did you know that if you adduct the, ulus to quote my favorite movie, The Anchor Man Oh, if you adduct the ulus to five degrees, you’ll work the trap on, But that is going over so many people’s dead, but don’t ever
Mike: go to 10 degrees.
Don’t, That’s the never do
Danny: this thumbnail, and like those things are they’re we are like MAs to a candle to that stuff because we love it. And sometimes we laugh it off. Like I, there’s this one guy, I’m not gonna name names, but he’s like notorious for posting what are effectively stupid idiotic exercise iterations.
But then he leaves these monster captions and uses the most esoteric language about bullshit. And anybody who really knows this guy’s a clown, but a lot of people don’t know he is a clown. He just uses really big words and really crazy exercises and we get caught up in that world when a lot of us as trainers, he probably trains professional
That’s what he
Danny: does. He does. You must know who I’m talking about. You must, I’m
Mike: gonna ask when we stop recording, but yeah. That, then this guy is a meme essentially because he’s.
Danny: Literally the meta meme right now in the fitness space. I literally joked on somebody’s post the other day.
They shared an exercise that he did and I was like, my fantasy football strategy this year was not to pick any players that this guy trains. And so far I’m undefeated . It’s silly, but we gravitate towards the stuff that we like, towards the stuff that, scratches the itch of five, 10 years in the space.
And not many trainers and coaches are out there making content for the 250 million Americans who aren’t moving, who aren’t lifting weights, who think they’re a lost cause. And one of the things I try to encourage anybody, whether you’re a trainer, a nutritionist, a dietician, a strength coach, Yes, absolutely work with the people that you’re the most interested in working with.
If you wanna help girls grow their butts, if you wanna help, football players, whatever, do that. But remember that, to quote Spiderman, with great power or what is it? With great power comes great responsibility. Like you, you have knowledge that can help a lot of people if you just take the time to frame it properly.
Be encouraging, not dunk on them, and make a little content for the every man. There, there are a lot of people out there who really need it, and we’re just, I think, not serving them well. And quite frankly, that’s why you were asked to write a book for that population. It’s not because you know the yes It is because you know these upper echelon, higher level things about training, nuances, nutritional nuances, but what makes you successful and what makes your supplement company successful, What makes your book successful is your ability to interpret that and.
Repackage it in a way that is accessible for so many more people. And so I would challenge anybody who’s listening, who’s really invested in their health and fitness, think about how you might repackage what you know to better serve the people who are coming to you for help in the first place. Don’t just tell them what you do.
Don’t tell them what they should do. Don’t tell them what’s, Don’t try to
Mike: impress them with jargon or this advanced level knowledge, sophistication. Save that for the other meatheads who
Danny: Absolutely, And I’m, I was, again, just speaking from my own experience, I spent a lot of time as somebody who got into the industry in my late teens and early twenties.
It’s dominated by really intelligent men in their late twenties to early forties who know a fuck ton about a fuck ton. And I just wanted to be one of the guys. And I felt hey, the best way for me to do that is just. Get as smart as I can be, and then show everybody how smart I am. That’s gonna help people, That’s gonna help make a difference.
And yeah, it gets you some clout with the people in your circle, but you know the people who are coming to you for help. The people who in your life that are really struggling, the people that you look at and go, God, I just, I really wish that they would make this change. And they’re not making it.
If you are communicating to them the same way you’re communicating with your peers, your contemporaries, the people you look up to, the people you wanna impress, they’re not going to respond to that. You have got to make sure that your messaging, again that’s another pandemic term. If your messaging is off, it’s very unlikely you are going to convince the 70 to 80% of Americans who aren’t doing much to do something.
So I think one of the things we all have to take ownership of in this industry is getting our messaging or at least making a point to, to have some of our messaging. Reach that huge swath of people who are completely confused, who are liable to try a juice cleanse, who are liable to do vegan keto fasting, you name it, who are going to try to do some seven different
Mike: fat burners.
Danny: I’m gonna do 75 hard because going from zero days of exercise to 75 consecutive double days seems reasonable because that’s what the people on the internet who are in the best shape tell me is reasonable. So I think we could do a better job and it’s something that I’ve really been interested in doing a better job above myself.
Mike: Yeah. That resonates with me. And that really has been my goal since the beginning is to make what could be complicated and some of this stuff, especially on the training side of things, it gets fairly complicated when we’re talking about what your average person needs to know.
It’s it’s not, it doesn’t seem complicated to us and to a lot of people listening, but if you remember what it was like to be new . I do. And there were, I had all kinds of questions and I’ve always been a decent learner, but it took time to sort through a lot of what was complexity, and now it seems so simple, of course, in hindsight.
And, so I can appreciate wh where people are at, and from the beginning, my, my goal has never been to impress. Anybody in the industry or to earn any accolades from the the gatekeepers or the intellia. Really, my goal from the beginning was to just communicate effectively to everyday people who need help.
And one of the reasons for that is because that is one of the few things. Now I’ve worked for myself and had businesses and made money and stuff for some time now, and there aren’t many things in life you can come back to again and get the same. Joy and charge and thrill out of making money is certainly not one of them because once you get beyond not having money problems, then you, what is it,
Danny: $82,000 a year, they say after that number, your proportionate increase in happiness starts to decrease with each dollar.
Mike: And I would say that, that of course depends on circumstances. So if you have a family four living in California, if that’s gonna be a bit different than a single dude living in Toledo where is that? Ohio, I think. Ohio. And but.
Regardless, there, there is that ceiling. And then beyond that, the satisfaction you get from money just it shrinks to the vanishing point. But helping other people and getting that firsthand, like having somebody email me or DM me just to say, Hey, I just wanna let you know, I read your book and I followed the program.
It’s been six months and here’s, here are the changes. Not just the physical changes, but all the other changes. A lot of the other stuff we’ve been talking about. There’s a lot of satisfaction in that and it never gets old, which is pretty cool and it’s awesome. So that’s been my orientation from the beginning.
Whereas again I’m a person. I don’t even take compliments very well. They make me feel a little bit awkward. So I’ve just never been, I haven’t been oriented toward, Oh I just want. The smartest people to think I’m smart too. Totally. And I just want them to accept me.
And it’s not that I think I’m better, it’s just not my personality. That’s all. And so it’s worked to my favor though. It’s,
Danny: It certainly has. And I just, the reason I bring that up is because I find so frequently in our space, we almost piss on communicating to the layman. It’s yeah, anybody could see
Mike: talking about simple little things and using simple
Yeah. Oh, what about, did you equate for protein intake? Did you equate for volume? What do you, hold on? Listen, we can have all of the, behind the scenes, off the air jargon talk and we cannot allow our industry to evolve further into a meathead intellectual dick measuring contests.
Okay. That only serves us, and I think it’s great, but I think the people in the industry like yourself, like myself, a lot of the good ones, we understand that there is a massive amount of people out there that need the basics. They need these things to be communicated to them in a way that is actionable, in a way that they could go, Hey, you know what?
That makes sense. So think about it like this. You know where you’re at now. Think about where you’re at when you’re started. If you could be where you’re at now, go back in time and talk to yourself when you first got started, would you use the words you used with your peers? Would
Mike: you even say hypertrophy?
Would you, Or would you just say muscle growth or
Danny: muscle growth? Yeah, totally. And I think we’re all guilty of in, some of the jargon becomes almost second nature. But when you are and just to circle the wagons here, cuz we’ve gotten, we’ve gone down some really cool avenues when you’re dealing with a loved one, a family member, a coworker, a child, a parent, and you want what’s best for them.
Probably intuitively that they’re suffering because they’re not in good fitness. Maybe they have some metabolic disruption from being very overweight. Maybe their mobility is challenged because of a weight problem or because of pain from being overweight or sedentary. Come coming to these people.
With words they can’t understand, with recommendations they can’t implement for the sole purpose of, Yeah. With 15
Mike: step checklists. Just start here, . Here’s the first 15
Danny: things that, here’s your hypers restricted meal plan. Your incredibly high volume, high frequency training program. And better.
And if you wouldn’t give it to yourself on the first day you started, you shouldn’t give it to, your mom, your. Your grandchildren, whoever. And so the simple formula I found is, in convincing to use the word in convincing people with a high amount of friction to start doing something better for themselves.
First off, remind them that this is about them. It’s not about you. It’s about their best interest, not about your interest for them. Let them know that you care about them. Be more encouraging than you are negative. Whenever there’s an opportunity to bring up failures in the past or be negative or paint failures as fucks, try to do the opposite.
Try to acknowledge and recognize small victories. Try to paint failures as an opportunity to learn because we know intuitively that much of what we know as the kind. Fitness bourgeoisie. We know that this stuff comes easy and it came easy to us because we fucked it up a million times and figured out how to make it make sense.
And so when they fail, pick ’em up. Lead by example. Offer to be there to support them, even if that means you go to the gym with them and you don’t hit the workout that you had programmed because you gotta hit the workout that works for them. Nothing kills me more than being like, Hey, I’m going to the gym with my nephew.
Oh, what are you doing? He said, We’re gonna do power lifting. All right that’s gonna end with you not being able to walk for three days. Meet people where they are at. Be the kind of person you wish, walked into the gym on your first day and was like, Hey, do you wanna work out with me?
Even if it doesn’t necessarily apply. These are things that work really well, and I think oftentimes our passion for wanting to help the people we care about comes across as pressure. Don’t let people mistake your passion and desire to help them as pressure. If they are ready and they’ve asked, or they’re showing signs of being ready, offer support.
But don’t, you can’t really pressure people into this. There’s a lot of truth to the statement that people only change when they’re ready. But you can create an environment where people are more likely to be ready more quickly by making exercise seem accessible, somewhat easy. Want to get a total body lift in, Hey dude, you wanna have a salad instead of onion rings and a cheeseburger.
Like small things like that can go a really long
Mike: way. At least you can get them to start thinking with it. That’s the first any change, right? Is at least to start thinking. And ideally then you could get them. And this is again, this is something that I haven’t used with myself. If I’m feeling friction about doing something, I first get to where I just imagine doing it where I’m now, I’m comfortable just imagining me doing what I need to.
And then it’s pretty straightforward to go and do it. But in, in other people if you can get them to, again, start thinking about whatever it is that maybe it’s starting an exercise routine, why that would be good if they could start first just imagining themself going for that walk every day. And then that can lead then to the first instance of it, you.
Danny: Totally. It’s a big stone wheel, right? And you’re staring at this huge stone wheel and you push on it, you push on it, you push on it, and it barely budges. But if you push on it long enough, you push on it just enough, you get just enough leverage. Once that fucker starts rolling, it’s really hard to stop.
And so what we’re really doing here is we’re trying to help people move a really big stone wheel. And they’re sitting there looking at it wondering, How the hell am I ever gonna move this thing? And you have to help ’em. And you have to encourage ’em, Hey, get up and push again. Push on that wheel again.
Push on that wheel again. Cuz one day that wheel is gonna move. It’s just hard. And I think that for us it comes easy. And maybe one of the best pieces of advice I could give you is just try to remember that just because it comes easy for you doesn’t mean it comes easy for everybody else. And to lead with that,
Mike: Great advice and great interview.
Thanks again for taking the time to do this and let’s wrap up with where people can find you and your work and if there’s anything in particular you want them to know about maybe relevant to our conversation or not, or something you and exciting you have coming.
Danny: Totally. Yeah. So you guys can find me on Instagram.
My username is Danny dot Meranga, just my name. I’ve got a podcast, the Dynamic Dialogue podcast, and I talk about a lot of this stuff. I field questions from my audience and most of the discussions are about implementing nutrition and training tactics for everybody from the complete layman to some of the more advanced trainees that I work with.
And I also have a coaching company. All of that stuff is linked through my Instagram, so pretty easy to find me if you just check me out on social media.
Mike: Awesome. Hey, this was great and we should do another one. Maybe after this one goes up we can brainstorm another one. This was fun.
Danny: Anytime, man, I’m happy to come on.
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